How could you get what you want, but not what you need?
Introduction: Navigating the complex interplay of desires and necessities can be challenging. My experience in a Silicon Valley-based program, Wantology, emphasized this, revealing the often overlooked difference between what we want and what we truly need.
Case Study: I once coached a senior executive facing a pivotal career moment. Despite a strong network and impressive credentials, they encountered a significant organizational shake-up. Prioritizing salary over other aspects, they secured their financial demands in the reorganization. However, the role's transformation led to a loss of authority and purpose, resulting in dissatisfaction.
Realization: Through emotional intelligence-based coaching, it became clear that their fundamental need was to feel valued and impactful, qualities not fulfilled by monetary compensation alone. Their true worth stemmed from making a difference and feeling aligned with their core values.
Resolution: Ultimately, they transitioned to a role that resonated with their intrinsic values, even at the cost of a lower salary. This shift towards aligning with their authentic self was pivotal in finding true fulfillment.
Conclusion: This experience underscores the importance of distinguishing between our wants and needs. While our wants are often influenced by external factors like status and wealth, our needs are deeply rooted in our values and beliefs. Understanding and aligning with these core aspects leads to more meaningful and satisfying life and career choices.
Alycia Setlin ACC BCC MS - Founder, Innerwork Dynamics- ICF Executive Leadership & Speaker Coach. Skillsoft Leadercamp Masterclass-Influencing and Persuasive Speaking. Masterclass- Women & Leadership in the workforce
"Own your value, so others can too"